Self Sabotage
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Belief Disturbance
Beliefs are concepts that are created in our consciousness, or mind, and transcend the spoken word. The
or validity of something: His explanation of what happened defies belief.”
For many, beliefs are more than simply a mental acceptance or a conviction. It is common place for most
people to assign emotions or judgment to their beliefs. A person may have such a deep emotional
attachment to a belief that they are ready to die, or in some cases, kill for their beliefs.
Of course, not all emotional attachments to beliefs are this extreme but most of us have experienced an
emotional response to having our beliefs challenged. Having our beliefs challenged can come in many
forms such as (to name a few):
• Verbal disagreements
• Seeing or hearing about some action taking place that we don’t agree with
• Personal actions that go against our conscience
When we experience these things, the emotions that we’ve attached to our beliefs can become “disturbed”
causing us to react emotionally. We may become defensive or even angry due to the disturbance of these
emotions.
An infant who has been damaged by CIO develops beliefs based on what they’ve experienced. These beliefs
become the “core” or foundation of the infant’s personality and can stay with the child into adulthood. Even
though they’ve been forgotten, they are still there in the person’s mind creating their life experiences.
Some of the beliefs created by the traumatized infant are centered around not being worthy of love or
happiness. The infant may also create beliefs of self loathing believing they are the reason why Mommy isn’t
coming to their aid. An infant in this situation will many times attach very powerful emotions, caused by
trauma, to these beliefs and these emotions can continue to affect the person into adulthood.
Many adults who were damaged by CIO as infants and toddlers have difficulty moving forward in life due to
belief disturbance. As adults, they’ll know what they need to do, and they’ll know what they want to do,
however, many times they will be unable to accomplish either.
As an example, a person may decide that they want to improve their quality of life through personal
development. They’ll purchase a book that deals with some area in their life that they want to change or
improve. When they get home, they’ll read a little of the book but never pick it up again, all the while honestly
believing that they’ll read it later. Or, the book goes straight to the bookshelf and is never read.
What is unknown to this person is that the very decision to improve their quality of life has disturbed the
beliefs they created as an infant regarding their self worth and/or beliefs centered around not being
deserving of happiness. Their desire has taken them as far as buying the book, but the emotional response
of the disturbed belief will keep them from following through with reading it. For a person damaged by CIO,
this is the root of self sabotage.
A more extreme example of this is the person whose foundational beliefs are so self sabotaging that they are
unable to maintain steady employment. Eventually, a number of these individuals may be unable to provide
the necessities of life for themselves and may become homeless. As mentioned earlier, they know what they
need to do, but the self sabotaging beliefs created during the trauma of CIO will keep them from moving
forward and helping themselves.
In order end the practice of self sabotage a person who has been damaged by CIO will need to learn tools
that will allow them to discreate (remove or delete) the trauma and beliefs associated with CIO as well as
work through the emotions associated with it.
Beliefs are concepts that are created in our consciousness, or mind, and transcend the spoken word. The
or validity of something: His explanation of what happened defies belief.”
For many, beliefs are more than simply a mental acceptance or a conviction. It is common place for most
people to assign emotions or judgment to their beliefs. A person may have such a deep emotional
attachment to a belief that they are ready to die, or in some cases, kill for their beliefs.
Of course, not all emotional attachments to beliefs are this extreme but most of us have experienced an
emotional response to having our beliefs challenged. Having our beliefs challenged can come in many
forms such as (to name a few):
• Verbal disagreements
• Seeing or hearing about some action taking place that we don’t agree with
• Personal actions that go against our conscience
When we experience these things, the emotions that we’ve attached to our beliefs can become “disturbed”
causing us to react emotionally. We may become defensive or even angry due to the disturbance of these
emotions.
An infant who has been damaged by CIO develops beliefs based on what they’ve experienced. These beliefs
become the “core” or foundation of the infant’s personality and can stay with the child into adulthood. Even
though they’ve been forgotten, they are still there in the person’s mind creating their life experiences.
Some of the beliefs created by the traumatized infant are centered around not being worthy of love or
happiness. The infant may also create beliefs of self loathing believing they are the reason why Mommy isn’t
coming to their aid. An infant in this situation will many times attach very powerful emotions, caused by
trauma, to these beliefs and these emotions can continue to affect the person into adulthood.
Many adults who were damaged by CIO as infants and toddlers have difficulty moving forward in life due to
belief disturbance. As adults, they’ll know what they need to do, and they’ll know what they want to do,
however, many times they will be unable to accomplish either.
As an example, a person may decide that they want to improve their quality of life through personal
development. They’ll purchase a book that deals with some area in their life that they want to change or
improve. When they get home, they’ll read a little of the book but never pick it up again, all the while honestly
believing that they’ll read it later. Or, the book goes straight to the bookshelf and is never read.
What is unknown to this person is that the very decision to improve their quality of life has disturbed the
beliefs they created as an infant regarding their self worth and/or beliefs centered around not being
deserving of happiness. Their desire has taken them as far as buying the book, but the emotional response
of the disturbed belief will keep them from following through with reading it. For a person damaged by CIO,
this is the root of self sabotage.
A more extreme example of this is the person whose foundational beliefs are so self sabotaging that they are
unable to maintain steady employment. Eventually, a number of these individuals may be unable to provide
the necessities of life for themselves and may become homeless. As mentioned earlier, they know what they
need to do, but the self sabotaging beliefs created during the trauma of CIO will keep them from moving
forward and helping themselves.
In order end the practice of self sabotage a person who has been damaged by CIO will need to learn tools
that will allow them to discreate (remove or delete) the trauma and beliefs associated with CIO as well as
work through the emotions associated with it.
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